Thursday, August 18, 2011

On the 19th of August

It's a shame the three of us don't have a picture together.

I am not kidding when I say that these two were probably all I had the past few months. Maybe that was a bit OA (but just a bit!), but you won't see me with anyone else on weekdays but Chad, and no one else but Yayay on weekends. But even if God didn't give me a lot, He sure gave me the best.

I have seriously learned a whole lot from the two of you, it's crazy to list them all, but the Bianca I am now I owe to you both. You're great people to have, and I hope that you two will keep on putting me in my place.

Happy Monthsary my dear Gerald, and Happy Birthday Chad! =)

Wednesday, August 17, 2011

Truth Thursday: My body is holding on to...

Physically, I was there, but everything else was so eager to let go. It was, after all, really complicated. I didn't want something everyone has to doubt. Quite frankly, it was getting to me, got to me even before I actually admitted it did. I just didn't know how to move away.

It was too much to handle, too much to think about. I am grateful for a lot of things. It was probably all of those things that made me cling. I didn't have the guts to let go. Probably because I know I will be branded ungrateful, but when you did it yourself, I knew I'll never be going anywhere but away.

And that's exactly what I did -- and I've never felt so free. But now, here I am again. I am trying to hold on to this, but I know it will never be alright. Too many things said, but then there's a whole lot more left unsaid, and in my heart of hearts, I know I'd rather have them as they are right now.

My body is holding on this, but it's getting quite tired. And everything else, is struggling to let go.

Thursday, August 4, 2011

Christopher Lao: A Case of Schadenfreude and Cyberbullying

I would have to admit that I had a laugh when I first watched Christopher Lao’s video on Facebook. A lot of people actually find others’ misfortunes amusing. As a matter of fact, I went on a bashing spree with some of my officemates this morning because, really, you just don’t drive your car into flood like that and blame it on others. After giving it much thought, however, I had a sudden change of heart.

While I admit that Christopher Lao needs a lesson on humility (and foresight), the rest of us need to understand that each of us will have a moment of weakness when we will not be able to think straight before words come tumbling out of our mouths. He had a moment of weakness, and it was very unfortunate that it was caught on video and a news channel lost its sense of social responsibility and aired a video, which doesn’t really have a purpose other than humiliating someone.

We can’t judge a person based on a moment of weakness because that doesn’t define a person. Christopher Lao is not stupid. There had been information that he graduated as Summa cum Laude with a Philosophy degree from UP, and he is taking up Law. He is someone who committed a mistake, just like the rest of us. And just because we aren’t the ones who committed the mistake means that we can insult him.

But really, why do we find pleasure in putting people down? What’s pleasurable in posting a video of someone’s most embarrassing moment and adding insult to injury by calling him names? It doesn’t make us better than Christopher Lao. As a matter of fact, the name-calling is saying more about us than Christopher Lao himself. It’s showing the world we’re lacking moral fiber because we chose to kick someone who’s already down. If we want to look smarter and cooler, or if we want to be famous among our circle of friends by having more ‘Likes’ and comments, we shouldn’t get it on someone else’s expense.

The next time we put someone’s error for the world to see, let’s all remind ourselves that we can easily be that person. And when that happens, would we want everyone to judge our whole being just because we committed a mistake that didn’t even last for more than a minute?